You Are A Worthless Piece Of Shit If You Need To Assault Women To Get Laid

PSA: This is the most sensitive topic I have ever and will ever write about. I have refrained for two full years from putting anything out, but my heart won’t allow me to do so anymore. I feel a responsibility as a writer and as a man to say what needs to be said. Regardless of your personal feelings, please remember as you read this that real people’s lives have forever been altered by the actions of others.  

September 8th, 2021 was my first day of classes at Northeastern. Since then, there have been 65 posts from the “neuspeakout” account – a space that was created to empower survivors of rape and sexual assault and allow them to share their stories. I’m not here to talk about any sort of culture the account has contributed to because the truth is, on a relative scale, it does not fucking matter. (According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, a study of 2,059 cases of sexual assault found only a 7.1% rate of false reports.)

It BAFFLES me how someone brought into this world by a woman can bring himself to do such a thing. It is just straight mind-boggling. Are you that ugly that no chick with two functioning eyes will give you the time of day when she's sober? Do you have such little rizz that you have to resort to using physical force to overpower someone you are far stronger than? You are a fucking coward if the answer is yes.

Sex is something special. I'm not here to say you should go through life only having it with people you feel a strong emotional attachment to because I'd just be a hypocrite. Yeah, it's 10x better when that's the case but a hot and steamy hookup can be just as fun.

Here's what I don't get. Regardless of the type and severity of the assault, the motivation for ALL sexual crimes stems from the perpetrator’s need for dominance and control, and sex is the tool used to gain that power over another person. My brain just fails to comprehend how any human can derive that satisfaction at the expense of someone else, regardless of the power dynamic. Lemme lay out two scenarios for anyone who's struggling to see where I'm coming from.

Scenario 1: You go on a date with a girl you've been talking to for a few weeks. One thing leads to another and you're back at your place making sweet love. You toss in some ass slaps when you're in doggy and some light choking/thumb sucking when you're in missionary and when the deed is done you guys cuddle and enjoy some intimate aftercare.

Scenario 2: You order a couple of watered-down vodka crans at the bar and scout out the most fucked up-looking girl stumbling her way out. You know she's far more hammered than you so you feign good intentions and trick her into trusting you. You get her home, pin her down, and do whatever sadistic shit your little brain desires. When it's all done, you leave and never think about it again.

You are a worthless, spineless, revolting pussy ass bitch if you choose scenario 2 to feel power. It is sickening to the point that I threw up the bacon egg and cheese I was eating at the Esplanade this morning when I read today's post. Like I'm no saint by any means, I've lied and I've ghosted just as much as the next guy. But along with cheating, I would never ever in a zillion years think to do something that vile.

I'm not going to pretend like I have all the answers because I don't. But I do know a few things for certain. This isn't a frat or a university problem, it's a cultural problem. This isn't something where one solution fixes all; sexual assault has been happening for generations and will require generations of corrective measures to fix this destructive culture. Men as a whole need to do better, and it starts at home with the values fathers instill in their sons. My heart goes out to all the people whose lives have been affected by rape and sexual assault and I pray you're able to find the peace you deserve.